Saturday, January 14, 2012

So ... Egypt


This is going to be a long one – so go get a cup of tea first


“Going to Egypt” has been a dream of mine for as long as I can remember.  The mystery, the history – the TIME.  Walking where the Pharaohs walked, where magic was part of life; going to the one place on our planet where alchemists and academics and thinkers and adventurers and dreamers went in search of inspiration and truth and eternal life - for centuries.  To say it was an obsession of mine, would not be an understatement. At some point, because it was such a great dream, I thought ‘going to Egypt’ would be the last thing I do in this life.  This is why, when Tinus said: “let’s go to Egypt,” a thrill of excitement – and a tiny thread of fear – ran through my body.  Strangely enough, the fact that the news media was painting a grim picture of the current state of affairs in Egypt did not deter me at all. Remember:  “I’m from Africa, dahrling;” we don’t see a bit of civil unrest as reason enough to change our plans.

“Who sits by the window” has been negotiated and I drew the last leg, coming in to Cairo.  As the view in my tiny window changed from desert landscape to city, I literally held my breath.  And then it was there – hundreds upon hundreds of brown buildings in a brown landscape – like some alien slave camp – it stretched out below as far as I could see, disappearing in a murky brown sludge of foggy haze on the distant horizon. 


Where was the Nile, shimmering blue against the green banks laden with crops?  The Egypt of my dreams had blinding white buildings, populated by proud people – the children of the gods, who painted their houses in bold colours.  As we circled and landed the realization slowly came to me – this is not the place I dreamt about.  Where did it go?  What happened?  How did it get to be like this?

The tour representative, Abdul, met us as we stepped out of the bus and walked into the terminal building.  He greeted us like old friends and with a friendly relaxed manner guided us through passport control, got our luggage and in no time had us standing outside in the huge - shades of murky brown and gray -parking area where we and our bags were loaded into a minibus.  Abdul sat in front with the driver, and as we left from the airport he turned around to us and asked: ”Have you heard about the traffic in Cairo?” “Yes,” we said.  He, smiled, and as he turned back he said, “Whatever you’ve heard – it’s worse.” 


And it was.  It took us two hours to drive from the Airport to our hotel in Giza.  The traffic was unbelievable, but entertaining.  Any mode of transport you can imagine, bicycles, motorcycles, horses, donkeys and little motorcycle-car-thingies crammed together on what I think is possibly a three lane highway – no regard is shown for road markings.  The road traffic people possibly know this because we only saw one road sign – Tinus took a photo of it.     The cars are all old –like 1950s old.  For someone who lives in a country where one regularly sees at least three Maseratis each time you go out on the roads and Porsche SUVs are common, this fact stuck out like a pentagram on a Christmas pudding. 

The passing scenery seemed to have been de-saturated.  The buildings are mostly unfinished, with reinforcement steel cables sticking out at all angles, you can clearly see where the inside staircases runs and just about none of the buildings have been plastered – let alone painted.  There was even a mosque, with the dome hanging precariously off one completed wall.  But then I started to notice it:  These unfinished buildings are occupied.  People live in them, and where there’s life, there are little bits of colour, as if the people are rebelling against the ‘great nothing’ threatening to take over their city by splashing bold colours around them.  And as I looked I saw more and more colours, blue and green, purple and orange, yellow and even a touch of red, bravely crying out against the mind numbing brown and beige murk I saw from the sky.


I thought I am going to tell you about our holiday, but it seems that I’m telling you about the truth I found instead of the splendor I expected.  Egypt is a place where the true face of humanity has been carved in stone through the centuries.  We saw testimony to the human traits of fear and hatred; the remnants of destruction caused by Christians and Kings, as they have attempted to destroy the faces of the gods and enemy pharaohs.   We saw testimony to the human traits of pride and greed; where the occupants of tombs have listed – walls and walls filled with hieroglyphs – telling of what they owned, what great deeds they did and how wonderful they are.  We saw testimony to the barbarity of the great pharaohs, which still lingers in the warmongers among humankind today, as we saw temple walls covered with battle scenes, where enemies are killed and great mounds of decapitated heads and other unmentionables are depicted with great precision and scribes are shown counting severed hands to determine how many enemies have been captured.

But we also saw testimony to the greater of humanity’s traits:  that of love and the need to create beauty, the in the way in which the artists of the village of craftsmen created the temples and tombs, carved the figures of gods and men out of stone so perfectly, that you almost expect the figures to step out of the stone walls.  And the colours!  Bits of colours remained everywhere, and one can easily imagine the breathtaking site these temples must once have been.  I always felt as if I was trespassing whenever we entered into a sacred space, where once only gods and priestesses where allowed. 


The testimony to another one of humanity’s most beautiful traits, that of the need to worship and believe in something greater than yourself, by different names and in different ways, is evident all over Egypt, in the great temples built to honour the gods.  We saw testimony to humanity’s adventurous spirit and the need to explore in the hieroglyphics telling us of Hatsheput's missions to the far reaching corners of the world, and with her we also see the strength of Women with an unbreakable spirit, doing what needs to be done, in spite of the cost to us personally.

Egypt’s modern history reads like the biography of a popular slave girl, passed from king to king to general, never loved, never cared for but greedily coveted, used and abused.  I was struck by the humongous monument at Aswan built in gratitude to the Russians.  But it made sense when I heard the story behind it:  The Egyptians wanted to borrow money to build the Aswan dam.  Nasser (one of many Generals in the biography) went to the Americans and Brits in the 1950s to try and borrow the huge amounts of money needed to build the dam.  Our guide told us it was around 530 million US dollars; Wikipedia says it was $1,120,000,000.  One thousand, one hundred and twenty million US dollars!  Whichever one it was, it was lots and lots of dollars, and apart from something like 6% interest they also wanted to have the Egyptians make friends with the Israelis – we all know how that turned out, so instead Nasser went to the USSR, who said sure, they’ll give them the money at only 2% interest and they can pay them back in ‘produce.’  If someone borrowed me millions and millions of dollars in return for some onions and watermelons I would also build him a monument too.

Today the dam/lake behind the huge wall stretches for about 350km south from the wall to the border of Egypt and carries on for another 150km into Sudan.   Personally I would never have built the damn dam.  It seemed to have messed up everything, but that’s just me.  As we all know, after the Egyptians built the dam the rest of the world jumped in to save the priceless legacy of temples flooded by the Aswan dam.  We visited the Temple at Philae dedicated to Isis and I hurt physically to think that all of that would have been lost, has it not been for the great human trait of generosity.   I think if one has to calculate it: the cost of moving all the temples, it would probably be more than the construction cost of that damn dam.  There were more than 20 temples I think, which were flooded, or would have been flooded, including the magnificent temple at Abu Simbel that Ramses the 2nd built for the love of his life, which sadly we didn’t see – next time. 


Our guide described the process of moving a temple to us:  First a mini-dam was built around the temple, usually with two sets of walls, and then the water was pumped out.  The temple was then moved – stone by stone – to higher ground.  Statues and larger blocks of stone were cut into moveable pieces and reassembled in their new locations, all of this done with money donated and by volunteers from all over the world.  At many of these sites there are still pieces left over, I guess it’s a bit like the last few mystery screws remaining after you took something apart and then put it back together again.


 Travelling on the Nile was one part of the dream that was exactly as I imagined it to be.  The cruiser itself was luxurious and I can well imagine a Pharaoh drifting down the Nile on his or her barge like this, looking at the people working their small fields, tending to their goats, looking pretty much like I imagine they looked thousands of years ago.  On the cruise we were brought in close contact with the local Egyptians, in the form of the staff/waiters/barmen on board the cruiser as well as the hoards of extremely irritating, in-your-face- street vendors who wanted to sell us stuff.  The staff on board was beyond good.  They were always friendly and our favourite among the crew was our barman, who gave us a riddle every time he brought us our drinks. 
Sadly, we didn’t buy anything from the vendors, we never even looked at their ‘wares,’ as they were apt to descend on you like a flock of hungry vultures the moment you looked interested in anything.  We quickly learnt not to make eye contact with them.  What I have seen though, is that in spite of the ‘hunger’ in wanting the sell you things, they had an incredible zest for life, there was exuberance and joy in everything they did, and laughter in their eyes.  They are beautiful, old and young, their faces are full of expression and whatever they do, they seem to do with everything they have.

 One of the highlights of our holiday was the hot-air-balloon ride over the Valley of the Kings.  None of us have ever done it and I think it is something everyone should have on their bucket list.  There is no way to describe that feeling of being part of the breaking day, soundlessly floating over the waking landscape as nothing more than a shadow in the morning mist. 


The four days on the Nile slid past way too quickly and before we knew it we were back on the classic old train, taking us to Cairo.  The train looks just like it did in the 1950s, and I can absolutely imagine Agatha Christy sitting on the very same chair I sat in, in the lounge, surrounded by (less faded) gold and green brocade. We have done and seen so much, temples and tombs flowed into each other but the incredibly artistry never ceased to amaze and enthrall me.  I am so glad that we did get to see Deir El Medina, the village where the craftsmen lived.  It is impossible to try and describe their artwork.  If I had to tell you about everything it will take me another three pages, no, more, and I didn’t even really take photos of it – not even a photo can capture the perfection of what they did.  I guess that is where the magic still lives, hidden in their work. 

As much as Dubai is a testimony to modern man’s ability to create, Egypt is testimony to what we always were capable of.  The pyramids are beyond words and I am so glad that Skye’s adventurous spirit inspired me to join her in going into an actual pyramid.  We two girls also took a camel ride along the pyramids, dusty and smelly as they were, the camels, Mickey Mouse and Michael Jackson, were actually really sweet.  Our last night was spent in the Mena House Hotel and that was an experience in itself.  Situated at the foot of the great pyramid of Cheops it was built in1869, around the same time as our house in Hopefield J  Agatha Christy and Winston Churchill are among the people who stayed at the hotel.  I love the Moorish décor and the plush carpets you sink into as you walk along the dimly lit passage ways, and the smell – I cannot explain it, but it smells like home.   As a grand finale to our holiday we went to see the laser and light show at the great Sphinx and pyramids on our last night in Egypt.  It was as spectacular as I imagined.  The show ends with the narrator in his very Omar Sharif-y accent saying:  “It is said that man fears time, but time fears the pyramids.”  

Sunday, January 8, 2012

LIFE goes on


New Years Eve 2011, minutes before 2012 and the moon hangs over the city as if she's smiling at us. 

It’s a new year and we’ve lived through the annus horribilis. Tinus’ chemo therapy has been completed and is strong and healthy - for which I’m so grateful.  The children has completed a whole term in their new school and new subjects;  Arabic – which they’re excelling in, and French in which they are both doing exceedingly badly.  Louis has connected socially, while Skye still hasn’t made any new close friends.  Perhaps it’s because we girls need friends on a different level from what boys do.  She’s also got glasses – not reading glasses, but to see far – like her dad – and surprisingly, she loves it –and looks really cool in it.  (Perhaps kids today don’t look cool anymore but rad or sick or something similar.)   

Over Christmas we were in Egypt, no tree, no gifts.  The evening of the 25th we four sat in the exquisite dining room of the Mena House Hotel at the foot of the giant Pyramid of Cheops and discussed our feelings on this over dinner.  We all love the big family get togethers, the days and days of baking and cooking and decorating, planning and selecting gifts, the secretive wrapping and hiding and the sharing but above all, the being together.  But how ok is it to celebrate a holiday of a religion you’re not part of?

Tinus suggested that we celebrate all religious holidays and we see Christmas as a day on which we celebrate God.  We spoke about what we see as our family traditions and decided to focus on creating a few more.  On New Year’s as we watched the mind-blowing fire-works display over Dubai two Chinese lanterns floated by our house and I thought I'd love to add that to our family traditions next New Year. 



 


Our house begins to truly feel like home, more so since we’re back after the holidays.  The pups and cat has settled; Tanzanite is slowly venturing out into the garden and Brigid has started to ‘sing’ with the prayer call, which is amusing, endearing and excruciatingly nerve wrecking. 


I am ok, at times, and at other times, when I think I’d like to live my life being more than just ok, I’m not ok.  But I learn.  There are times these days when I’m not even snarling when I have to tell people I’m a housewife – you won’t believe how often you have to state or fill in “occupation.”  It is one of those ‘quiet desperation’ things - being a housewife.  Much as I know it is a noble thing, the thing which keeps families together and that millions of very wonderful women all around this beautiful planet of ours do it with great pride and dignity, I still have to learn.

I miss my amazing bevy of creative, free thinking, open minded, enthusiastic, inspiring, energetic friends.  I miss the way they challenged and moved me, each in their own way, to be more, to discover more, to live more, to learn more.  I miss teaching.  I miss being close to my mom and dad.  I miss being able to walk up to the Merry Widow for a coffee and a chat, I miss popping in at Ilze’s for a lovely glass of red wine as the sun set, sharing thoughts and ideas, I miss learning stuff from Mathe while supposedly teaching her Afrikaans and so many many more.  I shall stop before the tears start.  

   

So, I miss a lot and have left a lot behind, but as Ghada said to me the other day: “you must find something for yourself here.”  And just now, as I thought of her I remember how I cried about leaving her and Ghaneema and Mizna when I left Dubai the last time.  That’s the thing about life, you always leave things behind, beautiful things, but you get more along more the way don’t you? 

I have learnt that I CAN cook;  I have a beautiful garden - well, soon to be, as soon as the grass seeds starts to grow and the little plants I planted start to flower… oo and I’ve planted two Jasmines!  I live in a beautiful house with my loving husband and two super kids;  I live in Dubai, a city among cities where everything is possible and I have more time on my hands than what is good for me, so I can read all the books I’ve always wanted to read, and I can sew and cook and perhaps even take up painting again.  The other day I played a CD we bought in Egypt (Nubian rhythms) and I donned my jingly belt and belly danced all over the house, here, all by myself, ‘cause I can! 

Yes, life goes on, and I plan to live it, not always quietly, and hopefully less often desperately.  This year (warning – New Year’s resolution coming up) I intend to be kind to myself, and blog regularly.  I hope to be able to post a blog once a week.  Next week I think I’ll tell you about our trip to Egypt.  Till then, be kind to yourself too.

Happy New Year!!!!



… yes you’re right, you didn’t see anything about giving up smoking  :


Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Gathering Happinesses


It happened when I dived into the pool in Hopefield one morning; I used to go swim with Ilze in the mornings.  I’m not much of a morning person, but that morning, as billions of tiny bubbles slid past my face in the somewhat green water – a smile burst out onto my face.  No one was there to see it, Ilze was swimming, and nobody else was there.  And I realized I smiled for no one, but me.  That’s when it hit me:  it’s because I’m happy.  And from then on, I’ve been gathering happinesses – registering when exactly I smile, for no one but me, involuntarily, for that I think, is my happiness indicator.

And so I tried to become consciously aware of that involuntary smile:  My first cup of morning-coffee; Louis and Skye arriving home from school; their faces when they’re sleeping; when they’re happy; when I take photos (even just thinking about it, because I just smiled;) brushing my teeth, the smell of wildflowers and rain and sunlight on my face and the chirping birdies … and many many more.  Over the months I have been gathering happinesses, and I really needed these, a few months back, when we went through the cancer ordeal with Tinus.  I could use my happiness triggers to give me moments where I smiled.

Marie-Louise and I were sitting on the stoep at the River Cottage talking about this when we saw two white-tipped Basset tails wag through the reeds next to the river – Brigid and Brandon, our two dogs!  And I smiled.  I ran down to call them.  Brigid looked up at me across the clumps of brilliant green grass, and I am quite prepared to swear that she was smiling as well.  She had this look of utter adoration, happiness and joy and everything in her said:  “I found you!”

The puppies (as we call them – they will be two years old at the end of December) were taken care of by Eugenie and later by Marie-Louise, John and Cous cous while we were trying to organize our lives.  Finally with visas and import permits organized, vet papers signed and delivered the long wait was over – they flew into Dubai and we could fetch them from the air port.  We were overjoyed and the puppies settled in quickly.  They became house dogs – with boundaries - but they still prefer to spend most of their time outside.   

One Saturday morning, about two weeks after we fetched them, Tinus and I were sitting outside with the puppies having a slow morning, each with a book and a cup of coffee.  It was a perfect morning, not too hot yet, birdies chirping happily in the trees when Brigid got up, took a few unsteady steps toward me and started convulsing.  My heart!!  It was dreadful, I held her until the attack was over and then we franticly called every vet and pet shop we found listed to find someone open on a Saturday.  Eventually we located a vet in Jumeira.  By the time Brigid arrived at the vet she was back to her old loveable self, charming and licking her way into every heart around.

The vet said it was quite possibly an epileptic seizure, I never knew dogs get these – it seems that there are a number of breeds who do. He said it could just be an isolated case but if it continues it can be controlled effectively with medication.   I have such sympathy for parents whose children suffer from epilepsy, it was terrible to see her so helpless, and feeling so completely helpless myself.  It hasn’t happened again, I hope this is an isolated case.  

My happinesses are happy to be with us and we are so happy to have them here, we just need the last member of our little family to join us.  We miss you Tanzanite and hope you’ll be joining us soon.

Canine Epilepsy